You don’t need me to tell you that parenting is hard… and I do mean HARD! Nerves are often frayed, kids sick, fighting, screaming, yelling, breaking things. I get particularly frustrated when I am rushing to do something and they insist on ‘helping’. It’s no fun when I need to concentrate on work and Aden wants to help by typing random things on my laptop. I keep thinking just let me finish this Aden and you can have my full attention. Just five more minutes please.. but then it’s never 5 minutes, is it? I once was working on a project one night and found him asleep on my bed without even a kiss good night. This made me cry.
We have a complex bed time ritual for the children. Aden is in bed by 9pm, Ayesha however, the professional Monster that she is sleeps closer to midnight. We tried to get her to bed at 9pm but she would wake up at 3am and monster away until 6am so she sleeps a bit later. After the usual bathing, dinner, tv time, 5 or so bedtime stories and loads of hugs, Aden gets tucked in bed with a glass of water. Ayesha runs around the room for a little bit then will settle down in bed with us for the remainder of the night. Any school work that needs attending will be done around this time and any tiny crafting projects too. It doesn’t always work out but when it does, bliss.
I have survived this Mama working guilt by allowing specific times to different tasks. From 4pm onwards to about 9pm, I am in family mode. I do things around the house, craft with the kids, make dinner, shop for food… I try not to entertain work around this time. In the end, family comes first and my job is second. I just need to keep reminding myself of that.
Monster 1: Aden is now 5. A gentle, loving, Pokemon obsessed, talkative 5 year old. His obsession with Pokemon is impressive. I buy these tiny little Pokemon figures and use them to bribe him to do a little bit of writing, reading, colouring… eating, bathing, singing…. According to Google, there are 802 Pokemon (without the evolutions) and Aden can almost name them all. Pokemon Go is a favourite past time and we enjoy watching the 21 Seasons of Pokemon as a family. We are now a Pokemon obsessed family.
He has also been fascinated with natural processes lately.. fossilisation, earthquakes, hurricanes, dinosaurs and everything in between. Yesterday I asked him how fossils are made.. matter of factly he states “well first, you die then you get buried..” Okay then little boy.
Monster 2: Little bubbly Ayesha is 2. Strong, opinionated, joyful and beautiful. She is daddy’s little princess and often follows Pete around as soon as he gets home. While Aden is a picky eater, Ayesha eats everything and eats with gusto! It delights me to no end as you know, Pete and I really really appreciate food😂.
She is also a terrible tease to her Abang. She would grab a toy that Aden is playing with and runs away with it. A chase would ensue, screaming, crying and then she would drop the toy, happy in the knowledge of the chaos she caused. Smug.
We are lucky to have such happy children. Trying as they are, Aden and Ayesha radiate love and life. They give us so much joy and I can’t get enough of them. So if you see me out on the street, dragging two whiny children, looking haggard and ultimately stressed out, don’t feel sorry for me. For I am truly wonderfully blessed.
Aden as a tree in his reception concert.
￼Mummy and Ayesha at a wedding